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Attitude Of Gratitude

Attitude Of Gratitude


Attitude Of Gratitude


Attitude Of Gratitude

Why is it that as we go through this game called life, we all have times where we are so grateful for things that happen to us…BUT why is it only when they’re positive things?

Please allow me to explain…..

The last few two weeks have been probably the hardest weeks my family and I have faced if not ever, it certainly has been such a long time that I can’t remember what would beat this pain, emotional stress, and outpour of tears.

On June 29th @ 3:15 PM we put our family dog to rest after 15 wonderful years of friendship, energy, joy, laughter, frustration, silliness, and most of all unconditional LOVE. Blue was a good looking boy and remained a puppy till he went on to do what he loves most which is chase/chew his kong and run after rabbits for the rest of time.


(I bet you are running faster than you ever imagined my boy, you are the best puppy ever. Love from all of us puppy boy!)


During this whole process, the big question remained internally eating at my soul…Did we do the right thing? Was he in pain or did I mis-diagnose his pain?

Let me explain: You see Blue was diagnosed with cancer in his bladder a little over eight weeks ago and we agreed as a family that we would not let him suffer even for a second. Then something hit me on Tuesday the 26th of June that I will never forget.


When saying good night, Blue looked at me and deep inside I felt his pain. It was a feeling that I have never felt before and I would not wish on the worst person to walk this wonderful planet.

Blue was in pain and it was up to us to make sure he lived the way he always wanted to…Running and playing with the people he loved most. For those of you that are animal lovers and have been through this, you will understand. If you are not an animal lover or haven’t been through this you won’t understand the internal questioning that happens when you decide to lay your family pet to rest that is not on their death bed.

Friday night was a night of ages if that is even a way to describe the worst night you could possible imagine. All I was thinking was

Did we do the right thing

This feeling was overwhelming, so I did what most of us do when we are not sure we made the right decision… I asked for a sign, I asked Blue to give me a sign that he was better now than he was here and that he was in fact happier now and not in pain anymore.
BOY DID I GET A SIGN! at the time it was not only confusing but it was very painful.

The entire day Saturday I was fully present looking for a sign that could put my questioning to rest and let me tell you, I thought I found many. Some were great signs that he was in fact really happy now that the pain had stopped and he could run for as long as he wanted without having to take a nap in-between KONG tosses.

Until Sunday July 1st. I was operating a table saw in my driveway and something happened. I managed to put my hand through the saw. Within minutes a wonderful afternoon turned into a nightmare of mammoth proportions.

While I was being rushed to the hospital, all I could think about was how Blue just gave me my sign! It was an unmistakeable sign I must say…. Or was that really my sign?

Without getting into too much detail as I don’t quite know how much your stomach can take. I figured that the “A” word was going to have to happen. I thought that I was going to have to get a finger amputated and was certain that skin graphs, plastic surgeon appointments were a guarantee in my future.

As I lay in the hospital with my wife Christine, I told her about my asking for a sign.

(Christine was my rock like you have never seen a rock before..Bigger than the alps she was! She stood strong as I crumbled.. LOVE you soooo much baby)



But Blue did give me a sign. The doctor arrived and asked me to bend my finger and hand in a bunch of different ways push on things (the best I could) he then stopped, he looked at Christine, then looked at me and said…

Man you are one luck person, you put your hand through a table saw and not one tendon or nerve ending got hit. Ya it looks very ugly but you are going to be just fine.

WOW, I wish that I could post a picture of my hand but most of you will most likely loose your breakfast, lunch, or supper…What ever time it is when you read this…

I know, what about the gratitude part of this blog, your probably saying…You’ve made me cry so can you give me a little joy Dan… Right?

I was so grateful that I was not going to loose a finger. The stress was just wild thinking that loosing body part was possible. Now I know people loose fingers, toes, and limbs all the time, so please don’t think that for a second that this is bragging in any way because I’m not, I am simply sharing my inner thoughts and gratitude.

Do you know what the first thing I said to the doctor after he told me I was going to be alright?

Thats amazing Doc. Do you know when I will be able to get back to the gym?

WHAT, come on Dan! You were just sitting there prying to not loose a digit and now within seconds of getting the news, you are being so vein by asking about working out again… COME ON! right?

But don’t we all do that? I am sure that we can all think of times where we were praying that the worst case was not going to play out and when it didn’t play out the worst possible way… We just immediately started on the next path without being grateful for what just happened.


All we do is go Whoo, that was close, what’s next….. Right?


Make gratitude part of your attitude! Be grateful for everything, share your gratefulness with people. By sharing how grateful you are, you will keep that feeling and spirit alive and this gratitude will create more gratitude.

May I share what I am grateful about? Blue did give me a sign, he said…

Daddy, it is time to stop thinking you did something wrong, I am fine and you know what…Now you have to worry about not getting your hand infected. You will need some pain killers that put you to sleep so now you can no longer stay up at night crying about loosing me.

But most importantly, Blue was sharing the very important lesson of Gratitude. He made us realize that we are so grateful to have had such a wonderful friend, companion, and teacher as we had in Blue.

Be grateful for what you have had in the past and what you do have now, never forget that PLEASE!





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Focus

Focus



FOCUS: Follow One Course Until Success

F.O.C.U.S


The Midas Touch Book Cover

I am almost through reading The Midas Touch by Robert T. Kiyosaki and Donald Trump. This book is amazing, the topics that they have chose to write about are up everyone’s alley it is just remarkable.

(Quick sneak peak: We will be doing a book review on it, so keep an eye out)

The one topic in particular we are going to focus on in this blog is of course the title…. FOCUS.

Mr. Kiyosaki defines focus as:

Follow / One / Course / Until / Successful….

Now that is a powerful statement do you not agree? How many times do we just loose focus of our vision, goals, objectives, priorities, or Life? I would wager that most of us would loose track very quickly in just a single day in our lives if we tried to keep track.

This is a word most people take for granted, they believe that they have a massive amount of focus, but do they? Robert talks about a time when he was in training for missions in Vietnam and when he was flying during a practice run his instructor was hitting him with a plastic bat. Now the fist time he did turn and the instructor advised him that he now killed everyone on the chopper. He was focused on the goal at hand, to pass the training simulation but just like the life most of us live with, something came out of nowhere and interrupted him. He lost focus, now not all scenarios are as dyer as flying a chopper into the battlefield in Vietnam but it is a great way to look at it.

So just stop and think of the amount of times that you might have lost focus on a particular project or goal. The big question is, did you miss a WOO? Did you miss a Window Of Opportunity by not remaining focused?

Did the fear of possible “failure” takeover and helped you loose focus? Opportunities come to us each and every day, we just have to be ready and focused on seeing them. What goals are you seeking to achieve? Are you laser focused on your prize? Nickelback has a song called If Today Was Your Last Day and some of the lyrics go like this.

Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind and try to take the path less traveled. That first step you take is the longest stride.

It Today Was Your Last Day Single CoverDid you have enough focus to take that first stride? When we look at it, none of us know how long that first stride will be BUT the people who are focused will be the ones that persevere. Are you that individual? Are you going to focus and succeed?

Both Robert and Donald talk throughout the book about the power of focus. They tell stories about goals that took over five years but with focus and determination, they succeeded. By reading this book, you can’t help but think…

Can I focus for five years on a single project without getting off track?

Focus can be the determining factor, the big piece of the puzzle that you might be missing if your success is just out of reach. Concentrate on developing your focus and see if that improves your outcome.

Against the grain should be a way of life, whats worth the prize, is always worth the fight.

-Nickelback- From the song If Today Was Your Last Day.


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Failure Or So It Seems

Failure Or So It Seems



Failure Or So It Seems: What do you believe?



Failure (Or so it seems)


Today’s blog post is near and dear to my heart. It is all (I guess the title gave it away) about failure…. Or at least what seems to be failure at the time. Before we begin, I have a question to ask you.

Do you believe in failure?

I believe failure is a word that was created to use when we don’t accomplish a task or goal. Let me share an example wit you.

Here we are, we have set a goal for ourselves and said that we will have it done in three months, we gave ourselves 90 days to pull it off. So we start our journey, the 60 day mark goes by and we are close but not there yet. Now we are approaching thew 90 day mark and we feel that we’re not that far past the 60 day mark when it comes to the progress we’ve made.

What do we do?

We force the goal to manifest, don’t we? Of course we all do. Now we hit the 90 day mark where we wanted to accomplish our goal and we didn’t do it, we missed our timeline. That means we’ve failed!

But did we?

Failure is such a final and conclusive word don’t you think? I mean it’s the final point to any sentence, there is not buts after that word because it’s final in everyone’s mind, however, this shouldn’t be!

The word failure should be at the minimum, the beginning of the education cycle. When you think you have failed at anything, make it the beginning of educating yourself on something new and exciting. Make it the stepping stone to greatness, achievement, and success.

After we get up from temporary defeat ang dust ourselves off, a new found spark is ignited and a new burning desire is internally created that will propel us faster than we could have ever imagined toward our goal. So if time is the factor in our example above, instead of using the F word. Why not just extend the time frame that you’ve set for yourself?

I used to believe in failure, I have not accomplished things in my life that I thought I wanted to accomplish but when you sit back and really look at the F word. It really can’t be used for any goal, accomplishment, or desire. Now I know that is a very bold statement but it is true, let me explain.

We will use Thomas Edison to drive this example home. Now I know you’ve all heard the stories about Thomas Edison. You know, the famous quote about the amount of times he failed at creating the incandescent light bulb.

We have researched the number of times he failed for this article and have found countless people that say between 500 to 10,000 times that he failed. The amount of times in not as important as his answer. So lets just arbitrarily use 1000 times for this example!

Thomas Edison said

I did not fail 1000 times, I successfully discovered 1000 ways NOT to make a lightbulb

Now that is the answer we all need to keep at the forefront of our minds. The F word is not permanent unless YOU allow it to be.

When you are hit with temporary defeat, simply stand back for a moment and look at your situation from another angle. Give yourself a little more time, re-focus, and even restructure the short term, mid term, and long term goals that will get you to the success you are reaching for.

If you want a new outlook on life, start with the F-word. If you seem to meet it, look into the issue or cause and learn from it. If you have learned something can you really consider it a failure?

If you are learning, you are growing! Don’t ever forget that!






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