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Are You Haivng Rainy Days Or Sunny Days – Overcome Adversity, Conquer Fear, And Breakthrough Challenges By Focusing On Sunny Days

On December 10, 2013   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Are You Haivng Rainy Days Or Sunny Days – Overcome Adversity, Conquer Fear, And Breakthrough Challenges By Focusing On Sunny Days

Are You Haivng Rainy Days Or Sunny Days – Overcome Adversity, Conquer Fear, And Breakthrough Challenges By Focusing On Sunny Days

 

We all have our “good” days and our “bad” days, that’s not for debate in this article. The debate is how our internal filters actually decide what truly can be defined as a good or bad day. As the saying goes: when life gives you lemons, make lemon aid. Well that to can be a difficult task in of it’s own.

Rainy-day-sunny-daySo how do we take adversities or challenges we face in life and change then into a positive trajectory moment that can take us further in our educational and personal growth?

We believe that to enable yourself to step out of the moment and find the trajectory moment in every adversity,we first need to understand why we see these challenges and adversities the way we do. Second, we need to be willing to change some of your most cherished beliefs about every situation. Why do we say most cherished beliefs Instead or habits or thought processes? For starters, our beliefs is the first and foremost driving factor to all of our views. If you change your belief about anything, the view you have if it I turn changes as well.

When anyone sets out to change their rainy days into sunny ones, there are parts of the body, mind, and even spirit that are thrown for a pretty big loop so be prepared. Your feelings will be truly challenged and the main reason is that it will feel completely foreign compared to your old paradigm. One point to remember and this usually happens when you have some quiet time to yourself, is that your negative thoughts will come and visit you, they will start to play on your conscious mind and share things like:

  • You can’t do this?
  • Rainy days into sunny days.. Come one.. What are you thinking?
  • Face it, you are done my friend!
  • You have no where to turn, you have no where to go!

We can go on and on, what our mind will say is not the point. The point is that it will start talking and when it does, how are you going to respond? Are you going to allow these rainy day ideas to control how you serve? How you create? How you act? How you love? How you live?

We were created to accomplish remarkable tasks and overcome massive adversity. The biggest challenge you are going to face in your life it the challenge of thoughts. It is within that six to eight inches (depending on how large your head is) that is going to be your biggest ally or greatest enemy. The choice is yours!

In the end of all of this, it boils down to choice. Do you choose to allow your rainy day thoughts to control your destiny? Or are you going to control your rainy day thoughts and take control of your greatness?

Choose to take control! So how can you go about eliminating these rainy day thoughts? Well you never really get rid of them but through practice and effort, they will decrease. Here are a few techniques you can use to help these negative thoughts dissipate for you.

  • Make a list of all of your achievements and when you have a rainy day thought read them aloud
  • post images, little sayings, or even snippets of your list of achievements in the places you usually have these rainy day thoughts.
  • Go get yourself some 3×5 cards and write these achievements down on them, carry them with you and every time you get a chance read them.
  • Get an accountability partner you can share these achievements with who will share them with you during those rainy day moments.

There are of course so many other ideas that you can implement in a split second. Now one thing to take away is that you must be persistent with your inner voice. Your inner negative voice is very persistent, so you must be even more persistent.

Make the choice! Choose Greatness! 

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Are You A Cookie Thief? What’s Your Perspective?

On November 13, 2013   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Are You A Cookie Thief? What’s Your Perspective?

I was driving to a meeting the other day listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer. As with you I bet, there is always a great inspirational or motivational mp3, cd, Inspiration_Your_Ultimate_Calling_Dr_Wayne_Dyer_abridged_compact_discs_Tor podcast playing in my car. As the late GREAT Zig Ziglar used to say “When you are on the road listening to inspirational, life changing material it is called automobile university”.

In continuing my education, Dr. Dyer shared a poem that Valerie Cox wrote called The Cookie Thief. This poem was so good that I had to pull over, pull out my laptop, find the poem online and write this blog. (You have gotta love technology!!!)

Here is the poem

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“A woman was waiting at an airport one night,
With several long hours before her flight.
She hunted for a book in the airport shops.
Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.
She was engrossed in her book but happened to see,
That the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be.
Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between,
Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.
So she munched the cookies and watched the clock,
As the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock.
She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,
Thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye.”
With each cookie she took, he took one too,
When only one was left, she wondered what he would do.
With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh,
He took the last cookie and broke it in half.
He offered her half, as he ate the other,
She snatched it from him and thought… oooh,
brother.This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude,
Why he didn’t even show any gratitude!
She had never known when she had been so galled,
And sighed with relief when her flight was called.
She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate,
Refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.
She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat,
Then she sought her book, which was almost complete.
As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise,
There was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes.
If mine are here, she moaned in despair,
The others were his, and he tried to share.
Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,
That she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief.”

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CookieThiefSo the big question we can take out of this poem is. Are you the cookie thief? Does your perception of filters if you will block your vision of what’s truly going on? There is also something else playing out here,  lets take a step back and think about this turn of events from the other persons end. What would you do if your intuition at the same time as your cookies were being depleted was saying “I think she is actually getting angry because I am eating my own cookies”.  As I sit here and type I can feel my insides kind of crunching up, yet I am giggling at the same time. The person who’s cookies were being eaten is a definite We-Go driven person not an Ego driven person. He’s a Go-Giver not a Go-Taker.

So lets really start to look at every situation from as many angles as you can. Is what you see as happening to you, in truth, the only way to see the situation?

 

 

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Are You Shy

On September 24, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Are You Shy

“Many great ideas have been lost because the people who had them could not stand being laughed at.” – Author Unknown


Psychologist Jonathan Creek of Wellesley College says that “situational shyness, such as feeling shy around a new co-worker or person of the opposite sex to whom we’re attracted to, can help to facilitate cooperative living; it inhibits behaviors that are socially unacceptable.” In this case, shyness can be a good thing; it prevents us from making fools of ourselves, or from hurting others’ feelings.

Are you afraid to take a risk? Perhaps you always anticipate the worst and fearing the outcome; you avoid the pain by avoiding the situation altogether. It could be simply fear of the unknown. Sometimes a single bad experience can grow into a habit as you continue to choose to flee or avoid any situation in which you feel uncertain.

The shy person can actually handicap themselves with negative thoughts and wind up using their shyness as a crutch and an excuse for not pursuing more social occasions, “I can’t handle these kinds of situations because I’m so shy.” Of course the more they tell themselves things like this, the harder it becomes to socialize, make friends, and establish relationships, both personal and professional. It becomes a self-defeating behavior.

Rather than dwell on the negative part of being shy, try seeing yourself in a more positive way. Shy people are less likely to gossip or brag; they are generally not overbearing or pushy, and definitely not aggressive or antagonistic. Once the shy person makes a friend, they are very loyal and dependable. They are more discreet than the more outgoing kind of personality. They tend to be much less controlling in most circumstances, and very willing to let others do what they want.

Let’s face it, some people are born talkers who can get along with just about anyone and everyone, and some people are not. More evidence is showing shyness to be an inborn trait or distinguishing quality. Shy people have difficulty making conversation and become very nervous when they feel they have to be congenial with strangers; they simply do not know what to say.

So, ask yourself these questions:

• Does the thought of meeting new people make you uneasy?

• Do you find it a struggle to come up with something to say to new acquaintances?

• Do you sometimes become tongue-tied around strangers?

• Do you avoid social gatherings where you’re certain to get left on your own?

• Do you have trouble speaking in large groups?

• Do you have trouble making eye contact when meeting someone new?

• Do you find it difficult to make new friends?

• Does talking to a member of the opposite sex make you nervous?

• Is dating nerve wracking to you?

• Are you at a loss for a retort when someone makes a wisecrack at your expense?

• When people take advantage of you, do you find it difficult to be assertive with them?

• Do you have trouble saying no to people?

• Do you fail to take compliments graciously?

Do you think you’re shy?

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The Power Of Habit

On September 8, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
The Power Of Habit


The Power Of Habit And it’s Effects On Us




How Much Of A Role Does Habit Play In Our Lives


An interesting question raised to the forefront of my mind last week when something very interesting happened. As I stood outside my house, the day was like any other really, except a mini van drove by and as it stopped, an old neighbour that have moved some two weeks earlier rolled down his window.

Of course I said the usual “Hello” thinking that it was really nice of him to drive by and say hi! But did he? NO he actually stopped to laugh with me about this being the 10th time he had drove by his old house simply out of habit. He had been driving the same route to and from work for so many years he had programmed his mind to simply go on auto pilot, to drive to that house. Funny isn’t it? Funny how we can input something so far into our subconscious that even the excitement of owning a new house does not overpower the habit that we have ingrained. Has this ever happened to you? Now of course it might be a different situation all together.

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I mean we have all been there right? We’ve all been behind the wheel of our car driving somewhere, myself it used to happen all the time on the way to and from work. I had about an hour and a quarter driver to and from work everyday. Most days I would all of a sudden pull into the office parking lot and I would stop and think… How Did I Get Here? never really giving any thought to the lights, speed, traffic, or pretty much anything else. I just seemed to be on Auto Pilot. So if we do it with these pretty crucial things like hhhmmm, let me think DRIVING YOUR VEHICLE

It brings up some BIG question does it not? Like:

  • What beliefs about adversity are we making into habits?
  • What are we driving into our subconscious mind that is hindering our growth, our life, or our family?
  • What negative thoughts are we drilling into the abyss of “I can’t do that”

These questions have to be addressed, could they be what is holding you back from really going after what you want? Are they key factors in the adversity that always seems to hit you? These questions can spawn so many others that the list will just keep going on and no and on.

  • So what’s the solution?
  • What do we need to do first to start down the road to achieving OUR goals?
  • How do we overcome these internal forces that always seem to control our thoughts and feed us with the:

“I can’t do that because I don’t have the skill, time, finances, health, youth, or knowledge!”

Here ar a few key steps you can start walking today that will bring you to a brighter tomorrow.

  1. Understand that these thoughts do exist and when they come out during those “Little Conversations” you have with yourself. Create a trigger to eliminate them. I use “Switch” I simply yell …SWITCH…. in my mind to clear it. It works like a charm for me.
  2. Create a daily routine where you add new and vibrant ideas into your mind about what you are truly capable of. Start a journal of these amazing things, I personall do one in the morning and before I go to bed. I once heard from Jack Canfield that writing these wonderful thoughts and feelings out before you go to bed allows the “Interweb” (Your internal internet service) to work on them as you sleep. SO you mind has already started to work on the solutions, people, and situations to help you solve your adversity.
  3. And Finally, take ACTION I you want to ease the negative thoughts that come into your mind that have been place dthere through habit or any other way for that matter. YOU,/strong> and only you have the ability to beat it.

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Re-Evaluating Your Plan Again And Again

On August 12, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Re-Evaluating Your Plan Again And Again


Re-Evaluating Your Plan Is Key


The other day I was listening to an interview I had already listened to about 100 times or so. It was an interview with Howard Schultz (He is the CEO of Starbucks), he was being interviewed by Brian Biro on a radio show called The Unstoppable Spirit. during this interview one thing popped out at me that I had heard before, thought about before, but never really paid attention to.

Brian and Howard were discussing success and what made Starbucks the success they are today, his answers were amazing he said of course one was hard work, a little luck, and the last one was very interesting and is the topic of this blog. Re-Evaluating yourself and your plan all the time. Mr. Schultz said

Keep Reinventing yourself, even when you are hitting home runs.

Now if you truly think about that statement by Mr. Schultz, it is so profound that we should really explore it. Howard Schultz Picture Why should we be reinventing ourselves even if we are hitting home runs? Well the first thought that comes to mind is What we are doing today will be the past tomorrow!

What we did last year, the way we did it is already useless is it not? Lets look at it another way shall we. If we create an action plan, step out on the ledge, build that big beautiful picture, and make a Decision that we are going to go after it. What next? Well action of course right? but what if we succeed? do we stop and think of why we succeeded?

Most of us don’t we just say

Hey that was great i did it and man does that feel good!

But why did it work? What was the main point or part of the master plan that created that success in the first place? What can we do again to ensure the same outcome? How can I start implementing this part of the plan into other stages of my life and see what that does? But most of all, how can I keep reinventing myslef to stay ahead of change and be a leader in my industry? How do I

Keep Reinventing yourself, even when you are hitting home runs.

Great question, with a great question comes a great answer!

Keep re-evaluating your plan, when you find success dissect it just as you would when you meet temporary defeat. It is said that you should even dissect it more when you reach success to enable you to truly find that gold nugget inside that part of the master plan. Break it down the the smallest part and keep that lesson to use on other projects and dreams.

Will they work? Maybe, maybe not but at least you now have a great starting point on your next project and if that part does not work. You can rest assured that it is not any kind of failure at all it was simply just a piece of the puzzle that didn’t belong in this project. Why? well because it has already proven that it works so it is the right piece of the puzzle it just might belong to another style of puzzle is all.

Keep Reinventing Yourself, Even When You Are Hitting Home Runs

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Time

On July 31, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Time


How much of a factor does time play in our lives?

Time, how significant in it?


We all know that time is a key (or the most crucial key) element in out lives. We hear it everywhere: “There is never enough time” / “Time is never on your side” / “Only if I had more time” / and so on and so on. But what about time with regards to our goals or internal thoughts of failing?

I am reminded of something that John Canary said in Bob Proctor’s Born Rich program. He said

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What does this mean and how are we applying it? Sowing references how we all plant the seeds of our big dreams. goals, vision, aspirations, and wants. When we plant the seeds we start down a new path, a path of enlightenment and excitement, we are on our way.


This drive continues until a point where we then might hit another crossroads in our lives such as seemingly insurmountable obstacles like funding, belief, time, the knowledge, internal struggle, or any number of other obstacles.

This is where it could just be a matter of time more than anything else. How does the heavy burden of time play out in us achieving our goals?

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Time is a key ingredient that most of us never even think of when we have seemed to “failed” at attaining our dreams, and aspirations. Why is that? Why is it that we never usually take into account that it just might not have been time to achieve what we went after? Maybe we didn’t sow enough seeds, maybe it was not harvesting time, or maybe WE were just not ready for the success that this project would have put forth.

Remember John Canary’s words again

There is a time for sowing and a time for reaping but you can’t do both in the same season.

What season are you in? Where are your crops and are they ready to harvest? Are they REALLY ready to harvest?

As you go forth with your dreams and aspirations, please remember John Canary’s words and try to stop for a second when your vision is not quite where you feel it should be and think you yourself.

It is time for me to be here or there?

So I guess to answer the question this blog started with which was:

Time, how significant in it?


Time is one of the most significant factors we OVERLOOK in our own dreams!

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Change Your Story Blog

On July 15, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Change Your Story Blog



Change Your Story

Changing Your Story, What’s it all about?

We would like to suggest that before you start reading this blog, you head over and watch Richard Kaye’s video where the inspiration for this blog came from. It is an eye opening video that had a massive impact on myself and we are hoping the same will happen for you. Here is the link Richard Kaye: Change Your Story.

When Richard shared this valuable piece of advise, I wrote it down and knew that this would be a valuable tool to help people overcome the seemingly insurmountable obstacles they face. So what is the “Change Your Story” all about?

The way that I took it and was later explained in further detail by Dr. Kaye is like this: We all come to a conclusion on every aspect, conversation, situation, argument, circumstance, and happening in our lives. Every part of our life really has a story that you can associate with it. So when we associate these stories to our lives a few things happen.

1) We take the story we associate to it and call that the truth

2) We believe that this is the only possible outcome.

But are these correct without a shadow of a doubt? I believe that is a yes and no answer, please allow me to explain. Your perspective is in fact reality, we all know that but as a mentor of mine Bob Proctor says

“If you look at something from a different angle, your perspective will change”

Bob Proctor

So what can change is Every situation ewe encounter? Is is possible that we can change the story to everything that happens to us simply by changing the way we look at it? I believe that is the biggest

YES

that there could be.

Is this easy NOT EVEN CLOSE. This is going to be one of the most difficult things you have done in a long time, hands down!

Before you give it a try, understand that you can’t just give it a try! Make a decision that you will from now on look at everything that transpires in your life from at least two to three angles, then respond to it and

Change Your Story

Richard Kaye

If you do, there are a few things that will transform your life into what ever you want. You can choose to make these stories go one of two ways!

Positive

or negative.


What’s your choice? How would you like to live your life? What’s going to be your legacy?



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