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When Do OUR Words Become Belief

On June 30, 2013   /   LCT Weekly Blog  

We hear it everywhere…Think positive, keep thinking about you dream, believe in what you are capable of, and belief is the gateway to success.

These statements sure do have a positive impact, i mean we have all left that seminar with high ambition, just juiced with excitement to reach fro our greatness, and even started to take immediate and massive action. When do those words we tell ourselves about what we are capable of start to become a belief?

During a recent interview with Ian Humphrey, this question arose and the answer was one that took quite a bit of thought. Here is a link to Ian’s video about when the words we say to ourselves actually become a belief. Click Here To Watch
words When we are taking new limitless words and applying them to our old paradigms, this process of having them become beliefs is somewhat of a fictitious thing isn’t it? Breaking these long term old paradigms are tough to do.. Did you see the instant connection there? Did you read into that word? Let’s share it again Long Term Old Paradigms.

These paradigms didn’t just appear in your mind overnight, they took a long time to implant themselves through your beliefs, friends, family, and other outside environmental circumstances / situations. So why do we think this would change overnight? Is it because we have become an instant gratification society? Maybe we never really give any tough as to how long it has actually taken to become our belief.

Eiher way, this is what we face. So how do we change these old limiting beliefs into new ones? When do these new found thoughts turn from just thoughts to our new paradigms of possibility? My belief is that this answer hase two ways of looking at it.

  • One is that we need to understand, we have taken time to allow these limiting beliefs into our minds, so in turn we will need to allow time to replace this old belief with new limitless thoughts.
  • Two is that these new thoughts are going to be challenged by your biggest opponent… Your Mind! this opponent is stronger that any superhero you have ever met, will ever meet, or that Hollywood will ever be able to created.

Our mind challenges change, we all know this. Maybe you have tried to meditate before and all of a sudden as you are trying to keep your mind clear, thoughts start to enter and if you allow your mind to play the game it LOVES to play you will see that you shift from one weir thought to another within seconds and this continues until you stop and “think” what the heck was that all about?

Choice is the biggest and most powerful solution to this issue. Make a choice, and unwavering choice to only allow these limitless thoughts into your mind and you will change your beliefs about yourself and what you are capable of.

When do they turn into beliefs. I believe the ultimate answer to be… When you choose for them to become your new beliefs. Will this stop your “Negative Nancy” (sorry to anyone named Nancy!) from popping up? Nope not at first but you will be surprised at the power a true and committed decision can make.

Joy To You In Every Precious Moment.

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The Actor Observer Effect

On June 26, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
The Actor Observer Effect



The Actor Observer Effect

The Actor Observer Effect

Recently I read an amazing little book by Dr. Suzanne L. Davis, this book is entitled Ten Interesting Things About Human Behavior.

There is a section that I would like to share and dive a bit deeper into. Chapter 8 is called

-We Use Double-Standards When We Judge Ourselves Relative To Others-


Dr. Davis goes on to use an example of dropping off some wedding invitations and says “ I didn’t mail the wedding invitations because my boss made me stay late again.” Dr. Davis goes on to explain that we make excuses for ourselves and usually

-Give ourselves a break –


Then Dr. Davis says “However, we don’t give others a break. When we judge someone else’s actions, as a general rule we attribute their behavior to internal factors (“but you drive right past the post office on the way home. You didn’t mail the invitations because you are having second thoughts about the marriage aren’t you?)

Does this sound like something you can do or have done in the past. Now obviously not with wedding invitations but I am sure you can think of other things or situations where you have not given others a break. When I was reading that chapter, a smile just came over my face and I had to shake my head.

Why is it that we do that? Why do we give ourselves so many breaks and let ourselves except all these personal excuses but when other people look for the same thing, we jump all over them with other possible scenarios except the real one that maybe they just created their own excuse and stuck to it, as we ALL have done right?

So lets try to give others a break too shall we? How do we do that, well I am in the same boat here. As I said, I just learnt the same thing you did… Wild isn’t it?

Here is what I am going to do. Not try, do! They are two completely different things remember?

Stop and really think about what the other person’s excuse is and think…”Would I have used that one?” look at it from their point not yours.

Not give myself so many breaks, I really don’t deserve them…….

And lastly, I am going to judge myself just as I would others

(This one is going to be tough!!!)




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Focus

On June 21, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Focus



FOCUS: Follow One Course Until Success

F.O.C.U.S


The Midas Touch Book Cover

I am almost through reading The Midas Touch by Robert T. Kiyosaki and Donald Trump. This book is amazing, the topics that they have chose to write about are up everyone’s alley it is just remarkable.

(Quick sneak peak: We will be doing a book review on it, so keep an eye out)

The one topic in particular we are going to focus on in this blog is of course the title…. FOCUS.

Mr. Kiyosaki defines focus as:

Follow / One / Course / Until / Successful….

Now that is a powerful statement do you not agree? How many times do we just loose focus of our vision, goals, objectives, priorities, or Life? I would wager that most of us would loose track very quickly in just a single day in our lives if we tried to keep track.

This is a word most people take for granted, they believe that they have a massive amount of focus, but do they? Robert talks about a time when he was in training for missions in Vietnam and when he was flying during a practice run his instructor was hitting him with a plastic bat. Now the fist time he did turn and the instructor advised him that he now killed everyone on the chopper. He was focused on the goal at hand, to pass the training simulation but just like the life most of us live with, something came out of nowhere and interrupted him. He lost focus, now not all scenarios are as dyer as flying a chopper into the battlefield in Vietnam but it is a great way to look at it.

So just stop and think of the amount of times that you might have lost focus on a particular project or goal. The big question is, did you miss a WOO? Did you miss a Window Of Opportunity by not remaining focused?

Did the fear of possible “failure” takeover and helped you loose focus? Opportunities come to us each and every day, we just have to be ready and focused on seeing them. What goals are you seeking to achieve? Are you laser focused on your prize? Nickelback has a song called If Today Was Your Last Day and some of the lyrics go like this.

Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind and try to take the path less traveled. That first step you take is the longest stride.

It Today Was Your Last Day Single CoverDid you have enough focus to take that first stride? When we look at it, none of us know how long that first stride will be BUT the people who are focused will be the ones that persevere. Are you that individual? Are you going to focus and succeed?

Both Robert and Donald talk throughout the book about the power of focus. They tell stories about goals that took over five years but with focus and determination, they succeeded. By reading this book, you can’t help but think…

Can I focus for five years on a single project without getting off track?

Focus can be the determining factor, the big piece of the puzzle that you might be missing if your success is just out of reach. Concentrate on developing your focus and see if that improves your outcome.

Against the grain should be a way of life, whats worth the prize, is always worth the fight.

-Nickelback- From the song If Today Was Your Last Day.


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Reacting VS Responding

On June 15, 2012   /   LCT Weekly Blog  
Reacting VS Responding



Are You reacting or responding?

Reacting Vs Responding


He absolutely blew a gasket. The reaction of this man was as if I just cut them off to the point that they had to drive on the sidewalk.

He started throwing me the bird, screaming absolutely disgusting profanities that R rated movies can’t repeat. Screaming at the top of his lungs while my 7 year old daughter is watching with the most astonishing look I have ever seen on her face.

My crime, I just swerved a little while I was looking into the back seat at my daughter when she was asking me a question and my vehicle moved about a foot to a foot and a half into his lane.

Sound familiar? Ever happened to you?

This is a reaction that we see all to much these days. People absolutely loosing their cool over something that in the grand scheme of things is totally irrelevant. These people choose to react instead of respond.

We have all been there at some point in our lives but where has it got you? Did it change the situation for the better or did you say or do something that makes you wish that you could turn back the clocks of time and change your “reaction”?

Me too! Reacting is simply letting your emotions control you not the other way around. By taking a step back or even if you want to look at it like taking a step out of your body and changing the way you are looking at the situation….You will find the situation will change.

If the gentleman that was loosing his cool over a car swerving slightly into his lane would have simply put his internal body filter up and not lost his cool, he most likely would have said to himself “Ya I’ve been there, it is so simple to just loose that line when you are doing something other than driving.

I mean we have all done it and when we correct ourselves and get back in our lane, our heart is pounding and all of a sudden you are paying better attention to the road than you have in ages. Why? Well for starters most of us driver through Paradigms but that is another post.

It scares us just as much as it scares the drivers around us right? When we react to something instead of respond we will miss so many of the benefits that come out of any situation.

With every adversity is planted the seed of an equal or greater benefit

– Napoleon Hill –

Napoleon Hills quote is not only true it is something that you should repeat anytime you are faced with a situation that you face that you feel is an adversity.

Now responding comes from a calm mind, a quite thought, and the chance to look at any situation from at least (I believe anyway) two other angles before you respond to it. Now this could be sleeping on an email that really got your juices flowing, waiting a few second to respond to a friend asking your advice, smiling at the gentlemen that is screaming at you for moving over into his lane, or even disciplining your children.

All situations can wait for a response rather than a reaction. No matter how severe you believe the situation to be, you can help by responding not reacting.

Think of what you say every time you speak. Remember, you can take the words back but not the feelings that the person you were speaking to felt when you said them.

Watch your words, respond don’t react, and have a great day!





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