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Procrastination Due To Fear

Procrastination Due To Fear



Procrastination Due To Fear


Is your procrastination due to fear?



This question brings out quite a flock of feelings when you really look deep into your soul. Do we tend to procrastinate about doing things we fear? Maybe it is the fear of failing to accomplish these set tasks? Whatever the reasoning is, procrastination can kill our dreams and visions so quick!


Sales people are probably the most hit by tis seemingly horrifying feeling. Why? Well look at it like this, how many people have you spoke to in your life and told them that they would be an amazing sales person? I mean they have the charm, talk (or gift of the gab if you will), sense, product knowledge, and integrity to back it all up. Then you tell them that they should go into sales and what happens?

They seem to slip into a quick coma and then say

Are you kidding me, I could never sell! I don’t have what it takes

What is this IT that they don’t have? could it possibly be the ability to get rejected and keep coming back for more?
Fear can hold us back
If you were to ask most sales people on the planet today, I would hazard a guess that the majority of them do not like cold calling. If you are sales person, do you like cold calling? Personally I used to hate it and one day I sat down and realized that it is the rejection that i hate more than anything.

As we feel comfortable with people, we tend to be ourselves. when we cold call we tend to be someone else, this person does not like rejection! Could it be because there are other factors at play?

Say like the possibility that if we don’t sell we don’t get paid?

This fear of rejection and failing can cause us to procrastinate in so many ways fro such amazing lengths of time. Why? why do we let this happen? see have done it before, I mean we have clients now or we have had clients in the past right, these new prospects are no different are they?

All of these questions don’t seem to have any effect on us at the time do they? We still procrastinate don’t we?

This goes for al the times where we have wanted to share our vision, joy, dreams, and new found passion with people doesn’t it? We procrastinate about going for it because the economy isn’t in a good spot, pour relationship is in turmoil, our kids are off on summer holidays, our spouse is in a mood, or I am not going to do it tonight because my boss was on my back all day and I just need to rest. All of these

“reasons”

are simply other ways to procrastinate.

Make a decision today that you will look procrastination in the eye and act on your passion, dreams, excitement, and love. Sure you will hit times that you are scared to death about the outcome, we all have… (little secret)

EVERYONE

has been faced with seemingly insurmountabe obstacles and when they believed in themselves and their accomplishments, they came through from fear to freedom.

Move from fear to freedom today and stop procrastinating



The Actor Observer Effect

The Actor Observer Effect



The Actor Observer Effect

The Actor Observer Effect

Recently I read an amazing little book by Dr. Suzanne L. Davis, this book is entitled Ten Interesting Things About Human Behavior.

There is a section that I would like to share and dive a bit deeper into. Chapter 8 is called

-We Use Double-Standards When We Judge Ourselves Relative To Others-


Dr. Davis goes on to use an example of dropping off some wedding invitations and says “ I didn’t mail the wedding invitations because my boss made me stay late again.” Dr. Davis goes on to explain that we make excuses for ourselves and usually

-Give ourselves a break –


Then Dr. Davis says “However, we don’t give others a break. When we judge someone else’s actions, as a general rule we attribute their behavior to internal factors (“but you drive right past the post office on the way home. You didn’t mail the invitations because you are having second thoughts about the marriage aren’t you?)

Does this sound like something you can do or have done in the past. Now obviously not with wedding invitations but I am sure you can think of other things or situations where you have not given others a break. When I was reading that chapter, a smile just came over my face and I had to shake my head.

Why is it that we do that? Why do we give ourselves so many breaks and let ourselves except all these personal excuses but when other people look for the same thing, we jump all over them with other possible scenarios except the real one that maybe they just created their own excuse and stuck to it, as we ALL have done right?

So lets try to give others a break too shall we? How do we do that, well I am in the same boat here. As I said, I just learnt the same thing you did… Wild isn’t it?

Here is what I am going to do. Not try, do! They are two completely different things remember?

Stop and really think about what the other person’s excuse is and think…”Would I have used that one?” look at it from their point not yours.

Not give myself so many breaks, I really don’t deserve them…….

And lastly, I am going to judge myself just as I would others

(This one is going to be tough!!!)




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Failure Or So It Seems

Failure Or So It Seems



Failure Or So It Seems: What do you believe?



Failure (Or so it seems)


Today’s blog post is near and dear to my heart. It is all (I guess the title gave it away) about failure…. Or at least what seems to be failure at the time. Before we begin, I have a question to ask you.

Do you believe in failure?

I believe failure is a word that was created to use when we don’t accomplish a task or goal. Let me share an example wit you.

Here we are, we have set a goal for ourselves and said that we will have it done in three months, we gave ourselves 90 days to pull it off. So we start our journey, the 60 day mark goes by and we are close but not there yet. Now we are approaching thew 90 day mark and we feel that we’re not that far past the 60 day mark when it comes to the progress we’ve made.

What do we do?

We force the goal to manifest, don’t we? Of course we all do. Now we hit the 90 day mark where we wanted to accomplish our goal and we didn’t do it, we missed our timeline. That means we’ve failed!

But did we?

Failure is such a final and conclusive word don’t you think? I mean it’s the final point to any sentence, there is not buts after that word because it’s final in everyone’s mind, however, this shouldn’t be!

The word failure should be at the minimum, the beginning of the education cycle. When you think you have failed at anything, make it the beginning of educating yourself on something new and exciting. Make it the stepping stone to greatness, achievement, and success.

After we get up from temporary defeat ang dust ourselves off, a new found spark is ignited and a new burning desire is internally created that will propel us faster than we could have ever imagined toward our goal. So if time is the factor in our example above, instead of using the F word. Why not just extend the time frame that you’ve set for yourself?

I used to believe in failure, I have not accomplished things in my life that I thought I wanted to accomplish but when you sit back and really look at the F word. It really can’t be used for any goal, accomplishment, or desire. Now I know that is a very bold statement but it is true, let me explain.

We will use Thomas Edison to drive this example home. Now I know you’ve all heard the stories about Thomas Edison. You know, the famous quote about the amount of times he failed at creating the incandescent light bulb.

We have researched the number of times he failed for this article and have found countless people that say between 500 to 10,000 times that he failed. The amount of times in not as important as his answer. So lets just arbitrarily use 1000 times for this example!

Thomas Edison said

I did not fail 1000 times, I successfully discovered 1000 ways NOT to make a lightbulb

Now that is the answer we all need to keep at the forefront of our minds. The F word is not permanent unless YOU allow it to be.

When you are hit with temporary defeat, simply stand back for a moment and look at your situation from another angle. Give yourself a little more time, re-focus, and even restructure the short term, mid term, and long term goals that will get you to the success you are reaching for.

If you want a new outlook on life, start with the F-word. If you seem to meet it, look into the issue or cause and learn from it. If you have learned something can you really consider it a failure?

If you are learning, you are growing! Don’t ever forget that!






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Reacting VS Responding

Reacting VS Responding



Are You reacting or responding?

Reacting Vs Responding


He absolutely blew a gasket. The reaction of this man was as if I just cut them off to the point that they had to drive on the sidewalk.

He started throwing me the bird, screaming absolutely disgusting profanities that R rated movies can’t repeat. Screaming at the top of his lungs while my 7 year old daughter is watching with the most astonishing look I have ever seen on her face.

My crime, I just swerved a little while I was looking into the back seat at my daughter when she was asking me a question and my vehicle moved about a foot to a foot and a half into his lane.

Sound familiar? Ever happened to you?

This is a reaction that we see all to much these days. People absolutely loosing their cool over something that in the grand scheme of things is totally irrelevant. These people choose to react instead of respond.

We have all been there at some point in our lives but where has it got you? Did it change the situation for the better or did you say or do something that makes you wish that you could turn back the clocks of time and change your “reaction”?

Me too! Reacting is simply letting your emotions control you not the other way around. By taking a step back or even if you want to look at it like taking a step out of your body and changing the way you are looking at the situation….You will find the situation will change.

If the gentleman that was loosing his cool over a car swerving slightly into his lane would have simply put his internal body filter up and not lost his cool, he most likely would have said to himself “Ya I’ve been there, it is so simple to just loose that line when you are doing something other than driving.

I mean we have all done it and when we correct ourselves and get back in our lane, our heart is pounding and all of a sudden you are paying better attention to the road than you have in ages. Why? Well for starters most of us driver through Paradigms but that is another post.

It scares us just as much as it scares the drivers around us right? When we react to something instead of respond we will miss so many of the benefits that come out of any situation.

With every adversity is planted the seed of an equal or greater benefit

– Napoleon Hill –

Napoleon Hills quote is not only true it is something that you should repeat anytime you are faced with a situation that you face that you feel is an adversity.

Now responding comes from a calm mind, a quite thought, and the chance to look at any situation from at least (I believe anyway) two other angles before you respond to it. Now this could be sleeping on an email that really got your juices flowing, waiting a few second to respond to a friend asking your advice, smiling at the gentlemen that is screaming at you for moving over into his lane, or even disciplining your children.

All situations can wait for a response rather than a reaction. No matter how severe you believe the situation to be, you can help by responding not reacting.

Think of what you say every time you speak. Remember, you can take the words back but not the feelings that the person you were speaking to felt when you said them.

Watch your words, respond don’t react, and have a great day!





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A New Page

A New Page



The time is now to turn a new page in your life


A New Page

As I sit here, coffee in toe on this crisp, calm, beautiful summer morning. Looking across the street watching the sun rise into the clear blue sky over top of the tree line I am reminded of a new beginning, a new start on life that only a new day can bring.

Dr. Wayne Dyer said “The morning breeze has secrets to tell” but what secrets can the morning tell us? Maybe it is the secret Bob Proctor always shares with all of his audiences “Each day is a new beginning, a fresh sheet of paper, you can make it what ever you want”

So if the morning breeze is telling us secrets and a key secret is that everyday is a new beginning, a fresh new start, a blank sheet, and a new day filled with new opportunities. What are we going to do with it?


Demosthenes said “small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises”

We encounter countless small opportunities everyday, the unfortunate thing is that we ALL miss so many of them. We all miss them, if you sit back for a few minutes and think about how many times that you could have seized a WOO, seized a beautiful Window Of Opportunity like Making someone smile, hugging your spouse or child, holding the door for someone at the mall, giving that extra little bit of effort to someone, letting that someone special in your life how you really feel about them, or helping a person in need.

It just blows your mind doesn’t it, BUT, there is some good news…..Today is a new day, here is your fresh sheet to make what ever you want come alive with excitement, joy, and love. Forget about yesterday and all the lost WOO moments, today you can seize them and make them yours.

By keeping the mindset of making each day a new page, a fresh start, or a new beginning if you will, we help our mind release the old and make room for the new. This new page that you have just made room for can get better and better everyday, all you simply have to do is make a promise to yourself, make a decision to creating a better day than yesterday.

Turn onto your new page and start a beautiful new day filled with energy, excitement, joy, passion, and love. Seize the moment, make it yours and always remember the great quote from Zig Zigglar

“If you can dream it, then you can achieve it. You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.”
– Zig Zigglar –

Turn your page today!





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