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Are You Haivng Rainy Days Or Sunny Days – Overcome Adversity, Conquer Fear, And Breakthrough Challenges By Focusing On Sunny Days

Are You Haivng Rainy Days Or Sunny Days – Overcome Adversity, Conquer Fear, And Breakthrough Challenges By Focusing On Sunny Days

Are You Haivng Rainy Days Or Sunny Days – Overcome Adversity, Conquer Fear, And Breakthrough Challenges By Focusing On Sunny Days

 

We all have our “good” days and our “bad” days, that’s not for debate in this article. The debate is how our internal filters actually decide what truly can be defined as a good or bad day. As the saying goes: when life gives you lemons, make lemon aid. Well that to can be a difficult task in of it’s own.

Rainy-day-sunny-daySo how do we take adversities or challenges we face in life and change then into a positive trajectory moment that can take us further in our educational and personal growth?

We believe that to enable yourself to step out of the moment and find the trajectory moment in every adversity,we first need to understand why we see these challenges and adversities the way we do. Second, we need to be willing to change some of your most cherished beliefs about every situation. Why do we say most cherished beliefs Instead or habits or thought processes? For starters, our beliefs is the first and foremost driving factor to all of our views. If you change your belief about anything, the view you have if it I turn changes as well.

When anyone sets out to change their rainy days into sunny ones, there are parts of the body, mind, and even spirit that are thrown for a pretty big loop so be prepared. Your feelings will be truly challenged and the main reason is that it will feel completely foreign compared to your old paradigm. One point to remember and this usually happens when you have some quiet time to yourself, is that your negative thoughts will come and visit you, they will start to play on your conscious mind and share things like:

  • You can’t do this?
  • Rainy days into sunny days.. Come one.. What are you thinking?
  • Face it, you are done my friend!
  • You have no where to turn, you have no where to go!

We can go on and on, what our mind will say is not the point. The point is that it will start talking and when it does, how are you going to respond? Are you going to allow these rainy day ideas to control how you serve? How you create? How you act? How you love? How you live?

We were created to accomplish remarkable tasks and overcome massive adversity. The biggest challenge you are going to face in your life it the challenge of thoughts. It is within that six to eight inches (depending on how large your head is) that is going to be your biggest ally or greatest enemy. The choice is yours!

In the end of all of this, it boils down to choice. Do you choose to allow your rainy day thoughts to control your destiny? Or are you going to control your rainy day thoughts and take control of your greatness?

Choose to take control! So how can you go about eliminating these rainy day thoughts? Well you never really get rid of them but through practice and effort, they will decrease. Here are a few techniques you can use to help these negative thoughts dissipate for you.

  • Make a list of all of your achievements and when you have a rainy day thought read them aloud
  • post images, little sayings, or even snippets of your list of achievements in the places you usually have these rainy day thoughts.
  • Go get yourself some 3×5 cards and write these achievements down on them, carry them with you and every time you get a chance read them.
  • Get an accountability partner you can share these achievements with who will share them with you during those rainy day moments.

There are of course so many other ideas that you can implement in a split second. Now one thing to take away is that you must be persistent with your inner voice. Your inner negative voice is very persistent, so you must be even more persistent.

Make the choice! Choose Greatness! 

Are You A Cookie Thief? What’s Your Perspective?

Are You A Cookie Thief? What’s Your Perspective?

I was driving to a meeting the other day listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer. As with you I bet, there is always a great inspirational or motivational mp3, cd, Inspiration_Your_Ultimate_Calling_Dr_Wayne_Dyer_abridged_compact_discs_Tor podcast playing in my car. As the late GREAT Zig Ziglar used to say “When you are on the road listening to inspirational, life changing material it is called automobile university”.

In continuing my education, Dr. Dyer shared a poem that Valerie Cox wrote called The Cookie Thief. This poem was so good that I had to pull over, pull out my laptop, find the poem online and write this blog. (You have gotta love technology!!!)

Here is the poem

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“A woman was waiting at an airport one night,
With several long hours before her flight.
She hunted for a book in the airport shops.
Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.
She was engrossed in her book but happened to see,
That the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be.
Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between,
Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.
So she munched the cookies and watched the clock,
As the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock.
She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,
Thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye.”
With each cookie she took, he took one too,
When only one was left, she wondered what he would do.
With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh,
He took the last cookie and broke it in half.
He offered her half, as he ate the other,
She snatched it from him and thought… oooh,
brother.This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude,
Why he didn’t even show any gratitude!
She had never known when she had been so galled,
And sighed with relief when her flight was called.
She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate,
Refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.
She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat,
Then she sought her book, which was almost complete.
As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise,
There was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes.
If mine are here, she moaned in despair,
The others were his, and he tried to share.
Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,
That she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief.”

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CookieThiefSo the big question we can take out of this poem is. Are you the cookie thief? Does your perception of filters if you will block your vision of what’s truly going on? There is also something else playing out here,  lets take a step back and think about this turn of events from the other persons end. What would you do if your intuition at the same time as your cookies were being depleted was saying “I think she is actually getting angry because I am eating my own cookies”.  As I sit here and type I can feel my insides kind of crunching up, yet I am giggling at the same time. The person who’s cookies were being eaten is a definite We-Go driven person not an Ego driven person. He’s a Go-Giver not a Go-Taker.

So lets really start to look at every situation from as many angles as you can. Is what you see as happening to you, in truth, the only way to see the situation?

 

 

Leaving Behind A Legacy That Conquers Adversity Long After You Are Gone

Leaving Behind A Legacy That Conquers Adversity Long After You Are Gone

 

Leaving Behind A Legacy That Conquers Adversity Long After You Are Gone

A dear friend of mine Josh Hinds author of It’s Your Life Live BIG sent out an email to his subscribers from getmotivation.com with a question that spawned some great thoughts and ideas of what’s to come in our digital age. Here is Josh’s email. The subject line was:

What are you putting in your mind?

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Readers are leaders. I’ve heard that countless times. I think there’s truth in it. Yet, so few people make this truth work for them.

Hopefully that’s not the case for you.

I became a student of personal development, when at 15 I read my first book by Zig Ziglar. The book was called, Over the Top. The ideas in that book have continued to make a huge impact on my life over the years. I bet you have at josh-hinds-mp3least one book that’s had a similar impact on your life, right? If so, I’d like to hear what book (or books) has had an impact on you. I would also love to hear what stood out about it. I’m always looking for my next great read 🙂

Years ago, when I first read that book by Zig, I heard one quote that I still try to live my life around. Perhaps you’ve heard it? Here it is:

“You can have everything in life you want if you’ll only help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar

Again, I’d love to have you share your favorite “inspirational or motivational” book with me. Just reply back and let me know.

It’s your life, LIVE BIGlive-big-book-cover copy Josh Hinds

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My reply back to him was Norman Vincent Peal’s phenomenal best seller The Power Of Positive Thinking. Now this chain of emails between Josh and I started a chain of thoughts that inspired this post. One of my replies back to Josh was to think about his book and in 50 to 75 even 100 years down the road, there will be someone sending out an email (or mental telegraph) most likely asking a very similar or event he same question.

power-of-positive-sizedThe answer? Simple, the information you share today, wether it be on your blog, podcast, or workshop will have lasting affects that at this point you might not even fathom the amount of people your message will help.

Today’s information highway allows anyone (positive or negative) to share their message and help people all over the world for an infinite amount of time. This idea then spawns yet another thought. When you post a Facebook comment, share a blog, record a podcast, or even write a letter to relative supporting them on a venture or maybe an adversity they are facing. Do you ever give any thought as to the ripple effect this information might have? The people it will help when you are sleeping? The amount of people that will experience that aha moment because of a few letters you strung into words that then got strung into a sentence?

It is simply remarkable how today we (meaning everyone on the planet) now have the ability to use our words of encouragement, joy, and reflection to not only find the gold nugget in EVERY adversity but to share that eye opening information with the world and help people on the other side of the globe that have a completely different operating system than we do.

We encourage you to spread your message or courage, belief, and success with as many people as you can. Write or record something today that will change the lives of people tomorrow and from here on out. If you stop, sit down in a quiet spot and really think. You will find a time in your life where you displayed a remarkable amount of courage and conquered some adversity.They way you conquered your adversity can and will help someone somewhere that is going through the same thing.

Share your experiences with the masses and a century from now, they will be talking about you as well.

When Do OUR Words Become Belief

We hear it everywhere…Think positive, keep thinking about you dream, believe in what you are capable of, and belief is the gateway to success.

These statements sure do have a positive impact, i mean we have all left that seminar with high ambition, just juiced with excitement to reach fro our greatness, and even started to take immediate and massive action. When do those words we tell ourselves about what we are capable of start to become a belief?

During a recent interview with Ian Humphrey, this question arose and the answer was one that took quite a bit of thought. Here is a link to Ian’s video about when the words we say to ourselves actually become a belief. Click Here To Watch
words When we are taking new limitless words and applying them to our old paradigms, this process of having them become beliefs is somewhat of a fictitious thing isn’t it? Breaking these long term old paradigms are tough to do.. Did you see the instant connection there? Did you read into that word? Let’s share it again Long Term Old Paradigms.

These paradigms didn’t just appear in your mind overnight, they took a long time to implant themselves through your beliefs, friends, family, and other outside environmental circumstances / situations. So why do we think this would change overnight? Is it because we have become an instant gratification society? Maybe we never really give any tough as to how long it has actually taken to become our belief.

Eiher way, this is what we face. So how do we change these old limiting beliefs into new ones? When do these new found thoughts turn from just thoughts to our new paradigms of possibility? My belief is that this answer hase two ways of looking at it.

  • One is that we need to understand, we have taken time to allow these limiting beliefs into our minds, so in turn we will need to allow time to replace this old belief with new limitless thoughts.
  • Two is that these new thoughts are going to be challenged by your biggest opponent… Your Mind! this opponent is stronger that any superhero you have ever met, will ever meet, or that Hollywood will ever be able to created.

Our mind challenges change, we all know this. Maybe you have tried to meditate before and all of a sudden as you are trying to keep your mind clear, thoughts start to enter and if you allow your mind to play the game it LOVES to play you will see that you shift from one weir thought to another within seconds and this continues until you stop and “think” what the heck was that all about?

Choice is the biggest and most powerful solution to this issue. Make a choice, and unwavering choice to only allow these limitless thoughts into your mind and you will change your beliefs about yourself and what you are capable of.

When do they turn into beliefs. I believe the ultimate answer to be… When you choose for them to become your new beliefs. Will this stop your “Negative Nancy” (sorry to anyone named Nancy!) from popping up? Nope not at first but you will be surprised at the power a true and committed decision can make.

Joy To You In Every Precious Moment.

Breaking Through The Edge Of Uncertainty

Breaking Through The Edge Of Uncertainty

Breaking Through The Edge Of Uncertainty

Have you stepped out on the edge of uncertainty and taken a breath before you jumped lately.. or ever?

DMJ-300Dennis Merritt Jones, author, speaker, and Huffington Post blogger asked that question and it really makes you think, no? How many times do we really step out on the edge of uncertainty and take that leap? not very many times I would think. That edge is the “ledge” of the norm, the ledge of “The same old.” This ledge can be the wall that you never believed to be erected in front of you. This “ledge” can stop you from going after what you really want in life, it can keep you trapped inside the limiting belief cycle that goes something like this…. “Me? I am not meant to reach that height of greatness, that’s reserved for those super successful people.”

What is “that height of greatness” anyway? Have you ever sat down and thought about what success is to you? Not to your friend, spouse, or children but what success means to you. Once you really give this question some serious thought the next step is to go and stand out on the edge of uncertainty and take a deep breath. When you take that deep breath, look around. How is the view? Scary? Possibly it is! How do you think a bird feels?

robin-nestThink about it this way. After the egg hatches, the bird’s mother does everything for them and then they reach that critical moment where they too have to step out into the world on their own. The bird doesn’t need anyone to convince them that they can fly, they trust that their inherent knowing will guide them to the freedom of flight. They stand on the edge of their nest (The edge of uncertainty) They then fall over or if they take too long their mother gives them that motherly love push and forces them into the unknown. They go over the edge and flap their wings as the ground speeds towards them, trying their hardest to defy the laws of gravity, then before they know it they are flying.

That inherent or innate knowing is your edge that you must go over and travel to your dreams. Trust your knowing and step out on that edge go for your dreams and remember to take that breath before you go over and enjoy the journey. Will it hurt sometimes? Sure will, everyone who has succeeded has faced that dreaded word “failure”, however, this word is only six letters assembled into a form that people tend to use all to often in life. We should change our inner belief about that word to something like this.

“Failure is simply success with an unintended ending”

Some of the things that we believe to be correct to be truths, sometimes prove to be lies. As we pass from the morning of our lives into the afternoon of our lives, these beliefs we have in the morning become lies and the same goes for that word…..Failure!

Stepping out to the edge of uncertainty and having this idea, goal, situation, or dream not quite turn out the way you wish. Does not mean in any fashion that you have failed.
If you go for your dream, you are already a success. 99% of the population are stuck in their comfort zone of the “norm” where there is no edge, no uncertainty, no such 2074319525_81309da47bthoughts of reaching out to become something better, to reach for the moon and grab a few stars on the way. So that in essence already makes you a leader, a success regardless of the outcome. Keep moving toward your goals learning from every situation you face whether it brings amazing results or something you feel might be less. There is a learning experience in everything we do.

Then release yourself to the belief that the highest power in this universe wants you to succeed. He does this with nature and will do the same with you, by releasing to you everything you will need to succeed, you just have to be willing to see it and accept it as such. A gift of the present!

The past is history, the future a mystery. The gift is now, that’s why it’s called the present. Enjoy the edge and take flight like a baby bird and morph into an eagle. The Eagle is the only bird that doesn’t run for cover when there’s a storm. Eagles fly above the clouds during a storm where it’s still nice and sunny!

Challenge Yourself, Breakthrough The Glass Ceiling You Created

Challenge Yourself, Breakthrough The Glass Ceiling You Created

Do you really challenge yourself? A dear friend Rico Racosky shares the realization that in life and in your daily routine, you only have two choices at any given time. So if that’s a fact, what is your choice? Do you choose to challenge yourself or stay where you are?

The difficulty with every challenge is that all might word “failure”, we seem to attach this word to almost every challenge we face or adversity we hit. The next big challenge is that you just like everyone has done in the past, you have these self imposed glass ceilings over your head that you believe you can’t break. This my friend, is where you are wrong!

Challenge Yourself

So lets start with that nasty word “failure”. Is there such a thing? If you learn something from a mishap, is it a failure? If you learn how not to do something when you are faced with a challenge, is it a failure? The answer to these two questions is all dependant on your perspective. The story you associate with every challenge, adversity, or obstacle will be the determining factor what you take away from any challenge, adversity, or obstacle you face.

Sir Winston Churchill said it best when he said “all men make mistakes, only wise men learn from them.”

This self imposed glass ceiling you throw up over your head is the second and just as intimidating as the fear of failure or success itself. This glass ceiling tells you that you can’t do this, you are not smart enough to do that, what makes you think you have the credentials to change this r change that?, or that will never work.

This glass ceiling needs to be broken before you will ever have the breakthrough you really want. This ceiling is not easy to shatter, there is no doubt about it. The funny thing is, when you do break it, you will wonder why you hadn’t done it earlier. The freeing feeling is like none that you have felt before. Know that where you presently think you peak out, is only just the beginning. Your potential extends far beyond where you presently think it maxes out.

Stretch and reach for what your heart desires.

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One Of Those Days

One Of Those Days


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Have you ever had “one of those days”?

You know the kind when everything appears to be going wrong. You’re late for a meeting and all the closest parking spots are gone. You decide to go out of your way to get another thing off the “to do” list only to find when you get to your destination you don’t have with you what you need. You run out of gas on the way home because you decided not to get gas before the meeting that you were running late for. There’s no one to call to come get you…and do you really want to in this circumstance?

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Just a little embarrassing. So you decide to walk. It’s about 10 degrees below seasonal temperature and the north winds are blowing. We’ve all had “those days”. As I was walking, I thought to myself how grateful I was that the sun was shining. I thought how grateful I was that I made it not too far from home and that I can now walk off the 6 almonds that I just ate. I thought how grateful I was that I was wearing my running shoes and not my three-inch heel boots. I thought how grateful I was that I had nowhere else pressing to be within the next couple hours.

The wind stopped momentarily and I felt the warmth of the sun on my legs. I rounded the last bend and the winds roared once again. I thought how grateful I was that l had my house key since I left the garage opener in the vehicle. I unlocked the door and the phone rang. I had just received wonderful news that I had been waiting for! Have you been grateful today?

Christine Hyder

Your Challenge Is Your Legacy

Your Challenge Is Your Legacy


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We all want to leave a legacy when we go, don’t we? Either for our children or the population in general. Is the legacy that someone leaves behind nothing more than the story associated with every challenge they faced? This question deserves looking into.

If you look at the legacy of Henry Ford for example. Is his legacy based on the challenge of making the V8 engine work or is it based on building cars? It can go either way right? Yes he did introduce us to this new way of traveling but would his legacy have been so great if he gave up on the challenge of building that ole V8? This engine is just one of the legacy lessons Henry Ford left behind right? Possibly, that also depends on your perception. Maybe Mr. Ford’s biggest legacy was the millions of single style cars he built with the Model A. Maybe it was his determination to be the best. Go ahead and research other great inspirational leaders like Winston Churchill for example.

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Was Mr. Churchill’s legacy the inspiration he left behind from overcoming a particular challenge he faced? Maybe his legacy to you is the way he overcame multiple challenges. In fact with Mr. Churchill is he faced many, many adversities that would have sent most into hiding for the rest of their lives. However, Mr. Churchill prevailed over all of them and that made him the great person he still is by living through his legacy you her about today and will hear about once again tomorrow.

You can find similar stories in all of our leader’s legacies and the leaders of today that are creating their legacies. All of them overcome challenge to bring you these breakthroughs and the benefits you get to take on and enjoy.

Embrace the challenge, leave a legacy for others to learn from. Pay it forward!

Fear And Her Brother Faith

Fear And Her Brother Faith


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You have heard the saying before fear knocked at the door, faith opened it and nothing was there. Or even you have nothing to fear but fear itself. These quotes or statements are very true but none the less, they are still some of the most difficult emotions to overcome.

Fear is a responsive emotion that is meant to keep us safe. So it is really a good thing, the issue is not fear itself. It’s more of what’s been programmed in our subconscious minds that creates these feelings we get when we have to step outside our comfort zone and act on situations or circumstances we have never acted on before.

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This new action is what triggers these feelings inside that in turn create the fear you and I face. Does knowing this make it easier to overcome? Maybe, maybe not. Most likely no but there is a way to keep this imbalance of emotions “in-check” by first excepting that you have a fear about your situation, then telling yourself that is it normal to have these feelings. This sets up your mind to take responsibility for the fear and only when you take responsibility and own the fear, can you truly act on overcoming it.

One last thing, if you fear going for that goal in your life. Look for people who have overcome the same or remarkably close fear. Discussing it with people that have never come close to overcoming what you are looking to conquer will have very little real life help to offer. You wouldn’t get great advise about creating a life of abundance if you searched out a homeless man under a bridge and asked him to share his wisdom would you?

Challenge Yourself Breakthrough Your limiting Beliefs

Challenge Yourself Breakthrough Your limiting Beliefs


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It is time you entered the challenge zone! When was the last time you challenged yourself to do something better? Made the internal challenge to create or do something that scares the hell out of you? Or experienced breakthroughs that took your breath away.

To challenge yourself and create breakthroughs with your present limiting beliefs is one thing that in my opinion, you should do as often as possible. Breakthroughs come in all shapes and sizes, the key is to see them. This can prove to be a little more difficult that you might think. In today’s world, we are moving at such a high speed, you might miss many of your daily breakthroughs that can lead to higher self confidence that will intern lead to more breakthroughs.

Challenge Yourself

So challenge yourself to be aware of your daily actions and you will soon see that breakthroughs are a daily experience for you. Have you ever walked through the door and when your spouse asks you how your day went, you have this reply. “We’ll it was really busy, but it was one of those days were I felt like I got nothing accomplished.”

Yeh, we have all had those days haven’t we? What is you were to try to write down your wins everyday? Write down all the breakthroughs you have in a day! This challenge we present to you today can make a massive difference in your productivity at both work and your home. Share this with your spouse or children and tomorrow at the dinner table, share your breakthroughs with your family as they share theirs.

Limiting beliefs are only as powerful as you make them. If you are limitless so are your beliefs. This exercise is also really good for your “bad days”, when you are having a day she your moral, energy, or mood are below par. Go back though your breakthroughs and you will see your energy, moral, and mood change as you relive the memories of your breakthroughs and smile as you realize that you have take your challenge by the horns and you are conquering your limited beliefs.

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